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On the TUNNEYSIDE of SPORTS
November 4, 2013 #461 Up next..."Catch others...."
After further review...A
recurring theme (and a very strong suggestion) in my presentations to
corporate, business and education groups is this: "Catch people
doing something right!" When one makes a mistake
or is not working to one's potential, others of us tend to be caustic in
our immediate judgment of their performance or behavior. Does that
promote growth? The suggestion here is to reward others when they are
doing the right thing. The idea is to eliminate errors and build
confidence. Incidentally, it's of no value to say "build-up".
Where people are concerned, that's the only direction there is. Lifted
up, raised to a new state of being.
The impetus of this message
came as I witnessed players and coaches (at all levels) berating
teammates in an attempt to improve performance, which all too often made
recipients defensive. A better approach is the positive application of
criticism. The word "criticism" is often defined as
"finding fault" with such synonyms as "rap", swipe",
"flak", "knock", all pejorative.
In building his T*E*A*M one
coach has said "It's about holding people accountable, and with that
comes a little pushing, and prodding-and a lot of patting them on the
back". Sounds like catching people doing something right fits well
that with coach's philosophy. Outside of athletics and the constant need
for motivation, these ideas apply to all facets of life, including the
raising of your children. Discussing this with one of our daughters
recently, she told me her daughter (age 12) needed some "pushing and
prodding" to get her homework completed and turned in on time. Hmm,
you too?
My experience as an inner-city
high school principal prompted me to encourage teachers to take the
coach's approach in their classrooms. The thought then -as now -was that
their 30-plus students were not all the same and need different kinds of
motivation to improve performance. I suggested that some students may be
quarterbacks, some running backs, some linemen, i.e., playing different
roles. Thus the pushing and prodding and pats on the back
will vary from student to student.
It has often been a mantra of mine that "there is nothing so unequal
as the equal treatment of unequals".
A teacher/parent/coach needs
to be stern, but fair in the disciplining of others. A quiet, yet firm
voice praising the right thing will build respect. Screaming, yelling,
and berating...not so much.
Will you look for ways to
catch others doing something right?
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