We can’t control every situation every day, but we can control most of how we react to unpleasant situations, and take care of our inner core. I recently heard a young lady express concern about her mother-in-law’s imminent visit. This woman apparently is über-controlling and opinionated. The young lady in question worried that she wouldn’t be able to handle the discomfort of having this woman in her home, especially during the holidays. She was concerned that her own needs and sense of self, in short, her ability to take care of herself, would be in jeopardy.
“I’ve gotten better,” she said. “I used to just kind of roll over and agree with everything, even her criticisms. Now, I’m able to stand up for myself better. But it’s still uncomfortable.”
1. Stand Up for Yourself. Sure, standing up for you isn’t always comfortable. It can be frightening to disagree. Standing up for yourself simply means that you don’t buy into stuff that helps you belittle yourself.
Simply agreeing constantly may avoid confrontation, but it does nothing for self-care. You feel resentful and prolong a vicious spiral. It doesn’t mean you are nasty to the other person, but a firm comment that bolsters your personal view or preference can go a long way to stimulate ongoing confidence and finding your voice. [click to continue
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